Today I had my first peer coaching session with Janis Kemers. We decided to meet in the town of Nyon, Switzerland. Nyon is like middle ground, midway between both of us.
From my own experience building a bit relationship is the first and foremost step towards coaching. This was was the focus of the session.
We started off by talking about AEDP module in Lausanne. By sharing our experiences we immediately hit a common ground and couple of mojitos helped to calm us down.
We quickly changed gears from IMD, AEDP, syllabus, professors, AEDP friends down to us. We openly shared our perception and feeling about each other. What we liked, what we observed, what we missed ? This helped us in knowing each other and building that "trust" which will be a core ingredient for our future sessions.
We looked back at our leadership classes and explained to each other our understanding of the GROW model. The common view was this model could be quite handy in our professional as well as our personal life. That lead us to our next topic " what areas we would like to improve upon". Janis listened to me quite well and asked cross questions to challenge my views. He was able to corelate to some of my problem, as we shared the common problem of being dominant and forceful.
We agreed not to do an active coaching session today but share which learnings from AEDP we have implemented so far. It was an aha moment for me when Janis told me about the impact of using 'yes and' instead of 'yes but'. I shared my experience of counting till three before reacting and how this technique has helped me in my professional life. As this technique gives me those few extra precious moments and control my emotions.
The action plan was to try each other's technique and figure out how usful was it?
One question which puzzled both of us was: what makes people tick? why we like someone and reject someone else?
It was for me a step towards a long journey and I am glad I found a right peer coach. We agreed on our next step and date for the next session.
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