January of the new year was no different than the last year. I spent most of my time in Singapore. We decided to meet for this coaching session face to face in Geneva.
Janis wanted to have a coaching session on the following issue :
I have behaviour in my personal and business life to be very pushy and persistent in discussing my point of view. Sometimes I drive it too hard without giving sufficient room for other people. Also I might push my idea too far, focus only on certain aspects, get discussion quite emotional, and risk it to become aggressive. After discussions I even sometimes recognize that I have been stuck too much on my idea, instead of considering other valid point of view, of I have argued just for sake of arguing.
This being a personal issue I decided not stick very closely to the GROW model. My intention was to reuse some of techniques/knowledge learned in the Resilience course and help coachee(Janis) also use those skills to resolve problems.
I spent most of the time on exploring and explaining options as a result the focus on specific objective goals was missed out. Towards the end we agreed on the next points and Janis had few items or skills to work upon.
In the second half of the session, we dicussed a problem I am facing at my work place:
New bank engagement: After the merger the team is merged to my team. The head of the old team who was working in the past indepndently now has to report to me. I want to align him to my goals and objective but so far the outcome has not been very encouraging. The delicacy of the situation demands a very careful handling. There are differnt short term and long term goals with this team and I have to balance both of them.
Janis played the role of the coach skillfully. He emphasized the importance of breaking down the problem to bare bones and adressing the real issue. Then only one can come up with real options.
We missed the summarizing part and agreeing on certain specific goals and actions. Exploring options gave me some new ideas regarding handling the situation.
Towards the end we agreed on our next meeting.
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